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Our take
Two couples' affairs pull their marriages apart, and the children hear more of the fallout than the adults realise. We Don't Live Here Anymore spends a lot of time with raw arguments, drinking and sex scenes with nudity. We would keep it for 16 and up; this is grown-up relationship pain told plainly.
Uplifting themes
The film shows what cheating costs families, friends, and children. It offers little comfort, so parents may want to talk through the damage with older teens The adults make selfish choices that hurt people close to them. A few show regret and try to be honest, but few are people a teen should copy
Story (may spoil tone)
Married couple Jack and Terry Linden are experiencing a difficult period in their relationship. When Jack decides to step outside the marriage, he becomes involved with Edith, who happens to be the wife of his best friend and colleague, Hank Evans. Learning of their partners' infidelity, Terry and Hank engage in their own extramarital affair together. Now, both marriages and friendships are on the brink of collapse.
Details
Violence Couples shove and slap in heated arguments, and one fight breaks glass.…
Couples shove and slap in heated arguments, and one fight breaks glass. Most conflict is verbal, though the anger can turn physical for a moment
Language The f-word, s-word, and crude sexual insults are frequent, especially i…
The f-word, s-word, and crude sexual insults are frequent, especially in fights between spouses. A few harsh names are aimed at women. Quieter scenes still carry some swearing
Sex / nudity Affairs and sex scenes carry much of the story, with partial nudity and…
Affairs and sex scenes carry much of the story, with partial nudity and frank talk about desire and betrayal. The scenes are adult and intense but not pornographic. Teens would see grown-up relationships handled plainly
Drugs / alcohol Heavy drinking is part of dinners, fights, and bad mornings, and charac…
Heavy drinking is part of dinners, fights, and bad mornings, and characters smoke and joke about harder drugs. Drunken arguments push scenes toward conflict. Drinking is shown as a way to cope and has costs
Child peril / abuse Children sit in the middle of their parents' fights and are left unwatc…
Children sit in the middle of their parents' fights and are left unwatched while adults are distracted by their own problems. Neglect is a quiet worry through the film
Mental health A character waves off the idea of being depressed, and stress, drinking…
A character waves off the idea of being depressed, and stress, drinking, and silence wear people down. The film shows the toll of unhappiness at home without offering easy answers
Flashing lights We have not confirmed whether this version contains flashing lights.
We have not confirmed whether this version contains flashing lights.
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Talk after watching
- Jack, Terry, Edith, and Hank each blame someone else for what is going wrong. Who do you think took responsibility, and who did not?
- How do the kids in the story notice things the adults believe they are hiding?
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