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Dear You

Parents guide · ClearAge age 13+ · Official M

Movie 2026 118 min Drama, Family, Comedy Checked by Dan S · 25 Sep 2026
Official Rating M ClearAge 13+

What we flagged

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Violence
Moderate
Sex and Nudity
Mild
Frightening
Mild
Language
Mild

Our take

This M Teochew-language family drama follows a grandson uncovering decades of love letters and sacrifice across China and Thailand. The rating cites strong violence, language, smoking and sexual references. It is a diaspora family story with those mature content areas flagged. Parents should plan to discuss how South Asian characters are portrayed. Best for teens already interested in diaspora stories.

Uplifting themes

Despite its flaws, the film is praised for themes of integrity, loyalty and the qiaopi letter tradition. Diaspora audiences have celebrated its emotional sincerity Xie Nanzhi's decades-long sacrifice, sending letters and money in Musheng's name, models extraordinary loyalty. Lead performer Li Sitong is widely praised for restrained work The film introduces the qiaopi remittance-letter system and Teochew diaspora history across China, Thailand and Southeast Asia. It offers strong cultural specificity for Chinese-speaking families

Story (may spoil tone)

Xiaowei travels to Thailand to find his "billionaire grandfather" who is out of contact due to debt problems, but unexpectedly find the one who has been corresponding with his grandmother for years is not her husband.

What we flagged

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Violence
Moderate
Sex and Nudity
Mild
Frightening
Mild
Language
Mild

Details

Violence Moderate Some strong violence is cited in the PG-13 rating. A South Asian gang's…

Some strong violence is cited in the PG-13 rating. A South Asian gang's attempted extortion leads to a hostel fire that nearly kills dozens, and Musheng's violent retaliation against an arsonist lands him in prison

Language Mild Language is listed among the PG-13 reasons. The film is primarily in Te…

Language is listed among the PG-13 reasons. The film is primarily in Teochew, with culturally specific dialogue throughout

Sex / nudity Mild Sexual references are cited in the PG-13 rating. The focus stays on qia…

Sexual references are cited in the PG-13 rating. The focus stays on qiaopi love letters and a decades-long secret devotion rather than explicit scenes

Drugs / alcohol Mild Smoking is explicitly listed in the PG-13 rating. The mid-century China…

Smoking is explicitly listed in the PG-13 rating. The mid-century China and Thailand period setting may include social tobacco use

Frightening Mild The hostel fire sequence is a pivotal frightening moment that alters ev…

The hostel fire sequence is a pivotal frightening moment that alters every major relationship. Dementia-related late-story turns may also unsettle some viewers

Self-harm / suicide No self-harm found in this title

No self-harm found in this title

Sexual violence No sexual violence found in this title

No sexual violence found in this title

Bullying / discrimination Moderate Critics flag a flat, stereotypical portrayal of South Asian migrants as…

Critics flag a flat, stereotypical portrayal of South Asian migrants as greedy, violent villains. Diaspora reviewers call that framing historically inaccurate and racially troubling

Gore / death / weapons Mild Musheng dies overseas in 1960. Violence includes retaliatory assault an…

Musheng dies overseas in 1960. Violence includes retaliatory assault and arson aftermath, without graphic gore

Dangerous behaviour Mild Musheng's violent retaliation against arsonists leads to prison and fin…

Musheng's violent retaliation against arsonists leads to prison and financial ruin. The film frames that choice as sacrifice rather than endorsement

Eating disorders / body image No eating found in this title

No eating found in this title

Mental health Mild A late-story dementia turn is used to intensify tears. That storytellin…

A late-story dementia turn is used to intensify tears. That storytelling choice may feel emotionally manipulative to some viewers

Gambling No gambling found in this title

No gambling found in this title

Grief / bereavement Strong The qiaopi letter system carries love, money and grief across decades a…

The qiaopi letter system carries love, money and grief across decades after Musheng's death. Two women keep a secret correspondence spanning nearly twenty years

Flashing lights We have not confirmed whether this version contains flashing lights.

We have not confirmed whether this version contains flashing lights.

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